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- THE WEISBROD DIGEST OF SEMINARS E-ZINE -
Carl Weisbrod, Ph.D.
Vol.4, No. 53 October 2000
I. RANTINGS & RAVINGS
Years back, when I worked in a clinic, sometimes a patient would leave a session very angry. It was usually because something I told them was in conflict
to their cherished belief system.
I remember the day one especially angry patient went to the psychiatrist complaining bitterly about me and my ideas. As it was put: "Carl is an idiot."
I had lunch with the physician and she said this:
"Carl, you are frequently dealing with people who aren't well educated and not highly intelligent." She went on to say that one of the things we learned during our formal education was to analyze things in a non-emotional way.
I recalled to her one of my math instructor telling us that his field is particularly valuable in training students to think in an organized and objective way--without emotion getting in the way of logic.
My lunch date was an aggressive shrink, always saying that the patient had the right to know the truth, and she continued;
"These people," she said, "have only one system for dealing with adversity and change--with anger and resistance. Their primary operating system is subjective, and when objective facts are in conflict with their belief system, they will subjectively want to discount the messenger as a person by thinking if they can characterize the "messenger" as "an idiot" the information must then be "idiotic." The more authority they feel the messenger has, the angrier they will
become--it's the only system they have." This technique is sometimes referred to as "Kill the Messenger."
We discussed the need to teach patients to think objectively before expecting them to handle objective information. I've tried to incorporate that into all of
my programs--just in case. :-)
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